RELATIONSHIPS & ATTACHMENT
The patterns we carry into relationships often began long before the relationship itself.
You may know what you want from your relationships and still find yourself repeating patterns that leave you feeling anxious, disconnected, unseen, or unsure of yourself.
Individual therapy can help you understand what happens beneath those patterns—not simply how to communicate differently, but why certain relationships, conflicts, or moments of disconnection affect you so deeply.
You may recognize yourself here.
You worry about being rejected, abandoned, or misunderstood.
You find yourself people-pleasing, overexplaining, or taking responsibility for how others feel.
You have difficulty setting boundaries without guilt.
Conflict can leave you anxious, shut down, angry, or emotionally overwhelmed.
You may stay hyperaware of another person's mood or behavior.
You want closeness, but vulnerability can also feel unsafe.
You understand your patterns intellectually but still find yourself repeating them.
Or perhaps a betrayal, breakup, difficult family relationship, or other relational experience continues to affect how safe it feels to trust and connect.
LOOKING BENEATH THE PATTERN
Relationship difficulties are rarely just about the present moment.
The ways we protect ourselves in relationships often make sense when understood in the context of what we have experienced.
Earlier relationships can shape what we expect from closeness, how quickly we perceive rejection, whether we trust our own needs, and what we do when connection feels uncertain.
Rather than treating these responses as something wrong with you, therapy can help us understand what they have been trying to protect—and whether those strategies are still serving you now.
Understanding the pattern is important. Changing your relationship to it can go deeper.
Depending on your needs, our work may integrate Internal Family Systems (IFS), EMDR, somatic approaches, Brainspotting, and other experiential therapies.
We may explore protective patterns, attachment wounds, earlier experiences, beliefs about yourself and relationships, and the emotional or physical responses that emerge when connection feels threatened.
The goal isn't to teach you how to become better at accommodating other people. It's to help you develop greater clarity, self-trust, emotional flexibility, and the capacity to participate in relationships without losing yourself.
Relationship and attachment work is provided through individual psychotherapy. I am not currently offering couples therapy.
A DIFFERENT WAY OF RELATING
Your relationships can change without abandoning who you are.
Therapy can create space to understand old patterns, heal what continues to shape them, and develop ways of relating that feel more secure, reciprocal, and aligned with who you are now.